thanks Julianne-- so higher ups at Pomona changed dad's password and i was able to find Aya's e-mail (she had written him worried because he had not responded and she did not know his number or current address) so i e-mail Aya(hello! if you are reading this!) and that is just wonderful.

also, on the calories, not to worry, i put that image in as an exaggeration.  he's still very skinny looking, but is absorbing what they are feeding him, thankfully.
OK, i must go to bed!